Maybe you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed or unmotivated.

Or

Maybe going through some difficult life changes like a death of a loved one, losing your job, a close relationship that has ended.

Well, I’m here to tell you that you are not alone and there is a way that you can get through this tough period.

I help women who are feeling lost and confused, to find and create a better, more fulfilled life that they want to live.

I learned by trial and error & experiencing some very difficult life changes along the way.

One of the first major life changes I had was when I was in an emotionally and physically abusive marriage.

Things were tight financially for us but both of us were working and trying hard to make ends meet.

I loved my children and my job but my homelife was completely different.

I dreaded going home everyday after work because my husband would come home with a 6 pack of beer and basically yell at me for not having supper ready or the house not being clean because there were the kids toys all over the place.  Meanwhile, I only got home 30 minutes before he did.

Most of the time, he would end there, but sometimes (when he drank more), he would physically abuse me.

I was too scared and ashamed to leave him.  He had put me down so much that I thought I was useless and couldn’t live on my own without him.

I didn’t want to tell anyone what he was doing to me because I didn’t want to be seen as a failure.

I asked him if he would go to counselling with me but he refused saying that our marital problems were all my fault so why should he have to go talk to a “shrink”.

I just kept getting more and more depressed, I had lost contact with my friends because I wasn’t allowed to go and see them without him and to be honest, he embarrassed me in front of people all the time.

I started questioning myself and having a negative mindset.  I said things like,

“I am a failure”

“I can never do anything right”

"I’ll never accomplish anything…”

“Why doesn’t anything ever go right in my life?”

It took me a while to finally leave but I did it and that was one of the best decision I have ever made.

It wasn’t easy, but I knew that something had to change.

The only person that I could change was myself so I started doing research on domestic violence on my breaks at work and working through some personal development workbooks that I found at a bookstore.

I worked on this for about a year before I finally had the guts to leave him permanently.

Those workbooks helped me to figure out what I wanted out of life and why I wanted them, which directions to take and helped to reduce the overwhelming feeling I was experiencing.

That was over 25 years ago and when I think back to the person I was back then to who I am today, there are very few similarities.

I am more confident in myself, I know my values and beliefs and guide my choices by those.

I am proud of who I am and what I have accomplished.

I’ve created my own variations of these workbooks I used back then and use them whenever I am experiencing a life change.

My goal of this video series is to show you how to start to create the life that you want to live.

I’m sure you are saying yeah genius, I know that…everyone knows that,,, but where do I begin and how?

I’ve heard many professionals and life coaches say that the first thing you need is to create a map of where you want your life to go.  Which is essentially goal setting.

But there is a crucial step that you need to take beforeyou can even start to create your map.

If you were lost in a deeply wooded and dark forest, how would you know where to go or what to do?

I remember when I was about 10 years old, I was at a park with my family and neighbours having a picnic.

A bunch of us kids, were playing hide and seek in the forest close by.

I was so busy running to find a good spot, I wasn’t paying attention to where I was going and the turns I was making.

I thought I knew where I was going but when I got out to the clearing that I knew my family was, no one was there and I realized that I was in the wrong spot.

My heart started racing, I was thinking that they were going to leave without me and I couldn’t see any of my friends.

Panic set in and I kept running trying to find a way out.

I had no clue where I was in the forest or which way to go.

Lucky for me, one of the parents of the other kids found me and brought me back to my parents.

My point to this story is that a map wouldn’t have helped me because I wouldn’t have even known where I was on the map, to start with.

I was completely lost.

Everything seems dark, depressing and overwhelming. We start to question our direction in life.

To be able to design your life, you must first find your bearings using your life compass.

So what the heck is a life compass?

Basically it’s a self-assessment of where you are currently in your life. Your life compass focuses on 8 specific areas of life and self.

They are:

Especially when I had a major life change like a break up, changing jobs or careers, or dealing with health issues.

This little tool helped me to stop spinning and create a new path and I want to share it with you so you can create your own Life Compass.

Here is the link for it Compass Life Assessment.

The goal of this assessment is to help you identify areas for improvement in the major areas of your life.

This is a great way to self-reflect.

Give your overall impression of how you rate in each category based on the past 30 days of your life.

If you don’t like your scores, it’s just an indication to focus on that area a little more this month.

Improvement takes time.

Set some goals, start some new habits and be patient and persistent in your journey to creating the life you want to live and will make you truly happy.

When you are finished you should be able to have a clear picture of where you are and what areas need work in designing the life you want to live.

This is just the beginning, to get you started to think about some of these questions that can help shape the direction of your life.

In the next video email, we’re going to go a little bit deeper into the 8 areas of life to help you uncover the life you want to live, and that makes you happy and fulfilled.

But right now, I want to know a little more about you…